Welcome to OakLeaf Coaching.
Grounded in lived recovery. Driven by personal goals to inspire change.
Addiction is rarely the real problem. It is usually a symptom of something deeper. As an Addiction Recovery Life Coach I help people understand the reasons behind the behaviour, break the cycle that keeps them trapped, and build a life where addiction is no longer needed.
Confidential · One-to-one · In person · Online or by phone call · No obligation
33
years addiction free
1:1
private coaching
100%
confidential
The missing piece
“Recovery is not simply about what addiction took away. Recovery is also about understanding what addiction gave you.”
Most people can identify the damage. Fewer stop to ask what purpose addiction served, and what emotional need it met, what pain it helped them avoid. Until those questions are explored, recovery can remain fragile.
About me
Lived experience. Recovery. Personal growth.
I'm an independent life coach. I'd like to tell you about my journey through addiction. Over three decades of personal experience and recovery. One from gambling, which I believe is one of the most misunderstood addictions. I've dealt with alcohol, drugs, and others. I came to see how addiction can turn sideways. From one addiction to another. I came to see addiction was just a symptom of a much deeper problem.
I kept jumping onto a recurring loop that kept me stuck in addiction. Addiction to me is about deep emotional wounds. Childhood traumas, unresolved issues. Addiction was a way to numb myself from reality. I had been on a journey of deep misunderstanding. I was looking for something. Anything. Escape. External to fix me. I came to see there's no external answer to an internal problem. My internal journey has been painful, but amazing. I wouldn't change it. From disconnection to connection. Helping others is my greatest reward.
- People are far more than their addiction.
- Addiction does not define a person's worth.
- Understanding is more powerful than judgement.
- Recovery is a journey of self-discovery.
- Lasting change happens when you understand what addiction gave you.
Why this is different
A different kind of support
Understand the why
We explore what addiction gave you, not only what it took. Until that question is answered, recovery stays fragile.
No judgement, ever
My role is not to judge, diagnose or tell you how to live. It is to help you see the patterns keeping you trapped.
Accountability that sticks
Practical, action-focused sessions with honest accountability between them, not endless dwelling on the past.
Private and personal
For people who don't want fellowships or treatment centres, and want a discreet, one-to-one path instead.
The real problem
Addiction is the symptom, not the problem
Addiction is not a lack of willpower. Many people genuinely want to stop. They promise themselves and their families, feel deep shame afterwards, and still return, because addiction operates on an emotional level, not a logical one.
It may start as entertainment, but over time it becomes about:
The cycle that keeps people trapped
Without understanding this cycle, people can stay caught in it for years. Recognising where you are in it is where change begins.
Underneath the behaviour
What is often hiding behind addiction
Childhood trauma, emotional neglect, grief, anxiety, low self-worth or a fear of failure. The behaviour is visible; the wound underneath often stays hidden. True recovery explores both, with honesty, not blame.
- Childhood trauma
- Emotional neglect
- Family dysfunction
- Loss and grief
- Low self-esteem
- Anxiety and depression
- Fear of failure
- Feelings of inadequacy
Talks & awareness
Sharing this message where it matters
Alongside one-to-one coaching, I speak in schools, conferences, workplaces and recovery communities about addiction, trauma and personal growth, helping people recognise the warning signs long before the damage is done.
If you would like me to speak to your school, organisation or group, please get in touch.
Enquire about a talk
How it works
Practical, supportive, action focused
Recovery coaching is different from counselling or therapy. The purpose is not to dwell endlessly on the past, but to learn from it and create a healthier future.
Free call · no obligation
Free intro call
A confidential conversation to talk through what's happening and whether coaching is right for you. No pressure, no obligation.
Book thisWeekly 60-minute sessions
One-to-one coaching
Structured sessions with accountability in between. Most people start weekly, then move to fortnightly as things steady.
EnquireSingle or ongoing sessions
Family & partner support
For partners, parents and family members trying to understand the behaviour, rebuild trust and look after themselves too.
EnquireSessions are held in person, online or by phone, wherever you are. Fees are discussed openly on the intro call, never a surprise.
If fellowships aren't for you
Many people benefit from fellowships and treatment programmes. Others simply do not feel comfortable attending, and prefer something private and personal.
Recovery coaching offers guidance, accountability, education and encouragement for those seeking a different path. It does not replace medical or psychological care when that is needed. Recovery is not one-size-fits-all. The important thing is finding a pathway that works.
Recovery is more than abstinence
- Understanding yourself
- Developing emotional awareness
- Building resilience
- Improving relationships
- Creating healthy routines
- Managing stress effectively
- Finding purpose and meaning
- Learning self-respect
- Building a life you no longer need to escape from
Together
What we work on
Coaching is practical, supportive and action focused. We look honestly at where you are now, what keeps pulling you back, and what a life without addiction actually needs to contain.
Start with a free call- Gambling, drugs and alcohol addiction
- Compulsive online behaviours, including gambling
- Repeated relapse and broken promises
- Shame, secrecy and isolation
- Cross addiction, from gambling to drugs or alcohol
- Triggers, urges and high-risk moments
- Rebuilding trust with family
- Childhood trauma and emotional patterns
- Building a life you don't need to escape
Questions
The things people ask first
If your question isn't here, just ask. There's no obligation attached to an email.
The first step
Book a free consultation call
You don't need the right words, and you don't need to have stopped to get in touch. A relaxed, confidential conversation, with no pressure, no judgement, no obligation to book anything afterwards.
Prefer email? Write to oakleaflifecoaching@gmail.com
Completely confidential. Nothing is shared with anyone.
Sessions in person, online or by phone, wherever you are.
Family members and partners are welcome to get in touch too.